The holiday season is supposed to feel warm. Full. Together. But when you’re living the geo-baching life, the holidays can feel like everything except  that. They can arrive with quiet spaces where someone should be, with traditions that look different than planned, and with an ache that sits just beneath the surface while you try to keep things moving forward. Spending the holidays apart is one of the hardest parts of living this life. Not because families aren’t grateful or

When our family first started geo-baching, I thought the hardest part would be missing my husband. And while that pain is real and deep, I learned quickly that the heavier weight is everything that comes with being the at-home parent. It’s the quiet load, the one you carry without fanfare, without breaks, and usually without the world understanding how exhausting it really is. Being the at-home parent means you become the default for everything. Every school form. Every pract

One of the hardest parts of geo-baching for me has been watching how it affects the kids. Kids experience this life in their own ways. Some become really independent. Some struggle with separation anxiety. Some act out. Some hold everything together until the house is quiet and the questions finally come. Why does he live somewhere else? When will we be together again? Did we do something wrong? Those questions hit differently when they come from your child. Kids may not have

When people hear that our family lives apart, the first thing they usually think about is distance. What they don’t always see are the costs layered on top of it. Travel costs are the obvious ones. Plane tickets. Gas. Hotels. Rental cars. Fees that add up quickly. We’ve spent thousands of dollars not on vacations, but on short reunions squeezed into school breaks or long weekends. Every trip is calculated and budgeted down to the last detail. Then there’s time. Time off work

“ It’s not about the amount of time we have, it’s about the quality of how we use it .” – Sean, husband and active-duty military pilot For many military families, geographic bachelor arrangements (geo-baching), where one partner is stationed away from home for extended periods, can present unique challenges. The emotional and logistical strain of living apart can be overwhelming. We recently spoke with Sean, a military pilot and instructor, who is currently geo-baching while

Family in Flight is a nonprofit organization dedicated to reuniting military significant others with their service members. Recognizing the unique challenges of military life, as an organization, we offer travel grants to alleviate the financial burden of expenses such as flights, gas, train or bus tickets. Founded by a military spouse and led by a team of military spouses, veterans and supporters, Family in Flight aims to strengthen military families by facilitating reunions